Virginity is a waist of time. If you're ready, you're ready. Just use your brain. Have fun, life's too short man.
The occasional quickie or long lay once in a while can be nice, but I'm at a point where I'm running out of excuses to turn down hookups because I don't feel like spending 6 hours in bed.
Absolutely not. I've been with girls who only go for 30 minutes but the last few have been cuddlers and that hasn't been cute since high school.
Oh god, my girlfriend is a cuddler. After about 30 minutes I usually just sort of kick her off. A man can only handle so much cuddling, lol. I didn't have sex until I was in my 30's. It wasn't because of any religious or moral beliefs. I just literally didn't feel comfortable having sex with someone I wasn't in love with, and I didn't fall in love for the first time until I was over 30. I think that being proud of your sexual activity, or your avoidance of sexual activity, is no better or worse than being ashamed of it. Do whatever you feel comfortable with, and give no ****s about what anyone else thinks about it.
This is kinda sad. Definitely not the sex part but that you haven't experienced falling in love for such a long time. Maybe sad is a poor choice of words but you know what I mean...
I think a lot of people mistake love for being horny. I can honestly say I have only met a few young people that actually seem like they are in love and not just **** buddies that do the occasional boyfriend and girlfriend things.
Unfortunately, I can't remember my first experience because I was really ****ed up. So it doesn't really count. I was kind of pissed when I found out that it happened. At least the chick was attractive was the only redeeming thing about the event considering she stole my weed.
I know what you mean. I wasn't happy that it took that long either, but I have no regrets or hard feelings about it now. I had liked plenty of people before and thought 'Hmm...maybe this is what love feels like?' But when the real thing happened it literally knocked me senseless for a little bit. It was a love at first sight deal. I know people probably think that's an exaggeration or something, but it happened. Literally looked into the eyes of a stranger and instantly felt something I've never felt for anyone else in my entire life. I found out later that she experienced the same thing. Funny thing is, we never slept together. She was with someone else and they had a kid together. I wasn't trying to break up anyone's family. I ended up falling in love again with somebody else a couple years later though.
I'm 22 and I feel sad sometimes that I didnt have such experience when all my pals did it yet. It's like Im missing something, but my internal self deep inside me says that the effords of hooking up with one girl randonly one night wont make me more of a man, so I wait. I respect people that go for casual sex, but I may feel its a waste of effort knowing that love wont evolve from that point. Waste of time is a relative perspective also, what may be joyfull for me may be different for you. What I really dont like its the common sense of bashing out in virginity or other peoples time. Part of saying that losing your virginty in late 30s is because there is a structured ideal of living your teenage/HS years young, wild and free, or what is depicted in Seth Rogen movies. (what isnt a reality for many) Including me.
Ofcourse it's not literally a waist of time but I was mere stating that to Soldat. I do not believe you should do it just to do it. But I do believe you should have as much fun in your younger life as possible and exploring your own self in every which way you can. To learn from it, to grow as a person and cherrish those experiences. Have fun but like Chunk said, do what you think is best for you.