Just to all who would want to know, we're fine. We've decided to stick through it and that I actually couldn't see myself with anyone but her.
If you know that the marriage is the source of the problem, and you know that you and her can stand the divorce, then do it now rather than later. It would be way worse if you waited until you had kids. (i would know, i am a child of divorced parents) also, if you want to see other people, end the marriage first. It would just make it worse if you cheated on her then divorced her, y'know? i think ive put in my two cents. EDIT: sorry, didn't read your last post, congrats dude, glad you decided to stick with it. once again, congratulations.